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Narcissistic Personality Disorder at a Glance

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The Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Can the Narcissist Have a Meaningful Life? - FAQ #1

An Overview of the Narcissist - FAQ #2

The Grandiose Fantasies of the Narcissist - FAQ #3

Can the Narcissist Get Better - FAQ #12

Other Personality Disorders - FAQ #15

Depression and the Narcissist - FAQ #17

The Narcissist's Addiction to Fame and Celebrity - FAQ #19

Self Love and Narcissism - FAQ #23

Psychological Theories and Narcissism - FAQ #24

The Development of the Narcissist - FAQ #25

Narcissists, Paranoiacs and Psychotherapists - FAQs #26-27

Deficient Narcissistic Supply - FAQ #28

The Compulsive Acts of a Narcissist - FAQ #30

Can a Narcissist Help himself ? - FAQ #31

Narcissists - Stable or Unstable? - FAQ #32

Do Narcissists Have Emotions? - FAQ #33

Gender and the Narcissist - FAQ #34

Narcissism and Multiple Grandiosity - FAQ #35

The False Modesty of the Narcissist - FAQ #36

The Narcissist's Warped Reality - FAQ #39

Narcissism - The Psychopathological Default - FAQ #40

Narcissism and Inappropriate Affect - FAQ #41

The Narcissistic Mini-Cycle - FAQ #43

Narcissistic Allocation - FAQ #44

Narcissistic Branding and Contagion (Inanimate Narcissistic Supply) - FAQ #46

The Dual Role of the Narcissist's False Self - FAQ #48

Narcissists and Introspection - FAQ #49

The Stripped Ego of the Narcissist - FAQ #50

The Split Off Ego of the Narcissist - FAQ #51

The Serious Narcissist - FAQ #52

Narcissistic Humiliation - FAQ #53

Narcissism's Clarion Call - A Dream Interpreted

The Narcissistic Pendulum and Pathological Narcissistic Space - FAQ #59

The Mid-Life Narcissist - FAQ #62

The Reconditioned Narcissist - FAQ #63

The Narcissist's Mother - FAQ #64

Eating Disorders and the Narcissist - FAQ #65

The Inverted Narcissist - FAQ #66

Narcissists, Inverted Narcissists and Schizoids - FAQ #67

The Narcissist's Self Defeating and Self Destructive Behaviors - FAQ #69

Narcissists and Biochemical Imbalances - FAQ #70

Myths of Narcissism - FAQ #72

Narcissists, Disagreements and Criticism - FAQ #73

Narcissism, Love and Healing - FAQ #74

The Vindictive Narcissist - FAQ #75

Narcissists, Narcissistic Supply and Sources of Supply - FAQ #76

Narcissistic Personality Disorder - Treatment Modalities and Psychotherapies - FAQ #77

Narcissism with Other Mental Health Disorders (Co-morbidity) - FAQ #82

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The Narcissist and Others

How to Recognise a Narcissist - FAQ #58

How to Cope with a Narcissist - FAQ #4

The Spouse / Mate / Partner of the Narcissist - FAQ #6

Should I Tell Him that He is a Narcissist? - FAQs #7-9

Exploitation by a Narcissist - FAQ #10

Adolescent Narcissist - A Case Study - FAQ #16

Narcissism and Trust - FAQ #20

Narcissism and Other People's Guilt - FAQ #21

The Narcissist and His Family - FAQ #22

Narcissists, Sex and Fidelity - FAQ #29

The Victims of the Narcissist - FAQ #38

Narcissism By Proxy - FAQ #42

The Narcissist's Dead Parent - FAQ #54

The Narcissist as a Sadist - FAQ #56

The Narcissistic Couple - FAQ #60

The Extramarital Narcissist - FAQ #61

The Narcissist's Mother - FAQ #64

The Inverted Narcissist - FAQ #66

Narcissists, Inverted Narcissists and Schizoids - FAQ #67

Mourning the Narcissist - FAQ #68

Narcissists, Disagreements and Criticism - FAQ #73

Narcissism, Love and Healing - FAQ #74

The Vindictive Narcissist - FAQ #75

Narcissists, Narcissistic Supply and Sources of Supply - FAQ #76

Narcissists and Women - FAQ #79

Surviving the Narcissist - FAQ #80

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The Narcissist and Society

Narcissistic Parents - FAQ #5

Narcissists in Positions of Authority - FAQ #11

The Irresponsible Narcissist - FAQ #13

Is the Narcissist Ever Sorry? - FAQ #14

Homosexual and Transsexual Narcissists - FAQ #18

Narcissists - Stable or Unstable? - FAQ #32

Narcissistic Confinement - FAQ #37

Narcissistic Immunity - FAQ #45

Narcissists and Social Institutions - FAQ #47

Narcissism, Crime and Punishment - FAQ #57

The Accountable Narcissist - FAQ #71

The Narcissist in Court - FAQ #78

The Narcissist in the Workplace - FAQ #81

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Journal Entries and Articles about Narcissism

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How I "Became" a Narcissist (The Genesis of Narcissism)

My Woman and I (Narcissists and Women)

Narcissist, the Machine (The Narcissist's Self-Image)

The Narcissist is Looking for a Family

The Magic of My Thinking (Narcissism and Magical Thinking)

The Music of My Emotions (Narcissism and Emotions)

I Love to be Hated (Narcissism and Masochism)

Grandiosity Deconstructed (Narcissism and Grandiosity)

The Entitlement of Routine (Narcissism and Entitlement)

Wasted Lives (Narcissism and Self-Defeat)

The Split Narcissist (Narcissism, False and True Selves)

The Anxiety of Boredom (Narcissism and Anxiety)

A Great Admiration (Narcissism and Grandiose Fantasies)

The Narcissist in Love with His Own Disorder

Why do I Write Poetry? (Narcissism and Repressed Emotions)

The Sad Dreams of the Narcissist (Narcissism and Dysphorias)

The Lonely Narcissist (Narcissism and Schizoid Traits)

The Green Eyed Narcissist (Narcissism, Jealousy, and Envy)

The Discontinuous Narcissist (Narcissism and Dissociation)

Dr. Jackal and Mr. Hide (Somatic vs. Cerebral Narcissists)

Portrait of the Narcissist as a Young Man

Pseudologica Fantastica (Narcissism and Compulsive Lying)

I Cannot Forgive (The Narcissist as Predator)

The Ghost in the Machine (Narcissism and Rootlessness)

That Thing Between a (Narcissistic) Man and a Woman

The Malignant Optimism of the Abused (Victims of Narcissists)

No One Counts to Ten (Narcissism and Defiance of Authority)

The Ubiquitous Narcissist (Narcissism and Omnipresence)

The Disappearance of the Witnesses (Narcissistic Reflection)

Physique Dysmorphique (Narcissism and Body Dysmorphic Disorders)

Being There (Narcissism and Selective Memory)

Other People's Pain (Narcissism, Sadism, and Masochism)

The Weapon of Language (Narcissists and Language)

Studying my Death (Narcissism and Mortality)

Beware the Children (Narcissists and Children)

It is My World, Who are You? (Narcissism and Omnipotence)

Conspicuous Existence (Narcissism and Omnipresence)

The Self-Deprecating Narcissist (Narcissism and Sense of Humor)

The Selfish Gene

The Genetic Underpinnings of Narcissism

The Silver Pieces of the Narcissist (Narcissists and Money)

A Holiday Grudge (Narcissists and Happiness)

Ideas of Reference (Narcissism and Paranoia)

The Delusional Way Out (Narcissists and Deficient Narcissistic Supply)

For the Love of God (Narcissism and Religion)

The Opaque Mirror (Narcissism and Reality)

Narcissistic Routines (Narcissism and Compulsive Acts)

Pathological Narcissism - A Dysfunction or a Blessing?

The Losses of the Narcissist (Narcissism and Self-Destruction)

Transformations of Aggression (Narcissism, Rage, Envy)

Chronos and Narcissus (Narcissists and their Protégés)

The Labors of the Narcissist (Narcissism in the Workplace)

The Objects of the Narcissist (Narcissism and the Inanimate)

To Age with Grace (Narcissism in Old Age)

 Narcissism - Discussing Various Issues

Grandiosity Hangover and Narcissistic Baiting

The Energy of Self (Narcissism and Mental Energy)

Whistling in the Dark (Narcissism and the Grandiosity Gap)

The Embarrassing Narcissist (Narcissism is Laughable)

Narcissism, Grandiosity and Intimacy - The Roots of Paranoia

Losing for Granted (Narcissism, Losses, and Life Crises)

Facilitating Narcissism (Narcissism and Social Skills)

Telling Them Apart (How to Recognize a Narcissist)

The Adrenaline Junkie (Narcissism as a Thrill Ride)

Narcissism and Evil

Narcissism, Substance Abuse, and Reckless Behaviors

The Cyber Narcissist (Narcissists on the Internet)

Abusing the Gullible Narcissist

The Two Loves of the Narcissist

The Professions of the Narcissist

Misdiagnosing Narcissism - The Bipolar I Disorder

Misdiagnosing Narcissism - Asperger's Disorder

Misdiagnosing Narcissism - Generalized Anxiety Disorder

Acquired Situational Narcissism

The Narcissist's Reality Substitutes

The Narcissist's Confabulated Life

Narcissism - From Abuse to Suicide

The Narcissist's Object Constancy

Back to La-la Land (Giving the Narcissist a Second Chance)

The Cult of the Narcissist (The Narcissist as Guru)

The Narcissist's Time

The Communal, Prosocial Narcissist as Misanthropic Altruist (Philanthropy as Sadistic Narcissism)

Grandiosity Bubbles (Temporary Narcissistic Outbreak)

The Depressive Narcissist (Narcissism, Depression, and Dysphoria)

The Enigma of Normal People (Narcissists and Social Cues)

Dr. Watson and Mr. Hastings (The Narcissist and His Friends)

The Intermittent Explosive Narcissist (Narcissistic Injury and Rage)

The Narcissism of Differences Big and Small

Inner Dialog, Cognitive Deficits, and Introjects in Narcissism

The Prodigy as Narcissistic Injury

Indifference and Decompensation (as forms of Narcissistic Aggression)

Narcissism, Psychosis, and Delusions

The Narcissist as Eternal Child

Idealization, Grandiosity, Cathexis, and Narcissistic Progress

The Narcissist's Inner Judge (Superego and Narcissistic Defenses)

The Pathological Charmer

The Communal, Prosocial Narcissist as Compulsive Giver

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Case Studies

Case Study #1 - Adolescent Narcissist

Case Study #2 - A Narcissist's Dream Interpreted

Case Study #3 - Narcissism and Persecutory Anxiety

Case Study #4 - The Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) Catechism

Case Study #5 - The Narcissist as Pathological Charmer

HealthyPlace Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) Community

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Topic Guides about Relationships with Abusive Narcissists and Psychopaths

Toxic Relationships with Malignant Narcissists and Psychopaths
How to Recognize a Narcissist Before It is Too Late?

Narcissists and Personality Disordered Mates, Spouses, and Partners

Narcissists, Psychopaths, Sex, and Marital Fidelity

VIDEOS The Narcissist's Sexuality

Narcissistic and Psychopathic Parents and Their Children

Projection and Projective Identification - Abuser in Denial

Approach-Avoidance Repetition Compulsion and Fear of Intimacy

The Narcissist or Psychopath Hates your Independence and Personal Autonomy

I miss him so much - I want him back!

Guilt? What Guilt? Remorse? What Remorse?

How Victims are Pathologized and re-abused by the System

The Narcissist and Psychopath in Society

The Narcissist and Psychopath as Criminals

The Narcissist is Above the Law

The Narcissist as Liar and Con-man


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Pathological Narcissism, Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Psychopathy


VIDEOS Mind of the Psychopathic Narcissist 


Does the Narcissist Have a Multiple Personality (Dissociative Identity Disorder)?


Narcissists and Emotions

Narcissists as Drama Queens

The Narcissist as Know-it-all

The Narcissist as Vampire or Machine

Narcissists and Psychopaths Devalue Their Psychotherapists

Violent, Vindictive, Sadistic, and Psychopathic Narcissists

Portrait of the Narcissist as a Young Man

Grandiosity, Fantasies, and Narcissism

Narcissists and Mood Disorders


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More about Pathological Narcissism

Abusive Relationship Newsletter


On Empathy

Divorcing the Narcissist

Do Narcissists Hate Women?

Lasch - The Cultural Narcissist

Traumas as Social Interactions

The Roots of Pedophilia

Can the Narcissist Become Violent?

Narcissism, Self Awareness and Healing

Narcissism, Self Love and Self Destruction

The Narcissistic Psychopath - The Talented Mr. Ripley

The Mind of One Narcissist - Sam Vaknin Journalizes and Blogs

What is Abuse? and Abuse in the Family

Narcissists, Violence and Abuse Resources

Why does the Narcissist Keep Coming Back?

Anger - The Common Sources of Personality Disorders

How Can I Save My Child from His Father's Narcissism?

Can the Narcissist Ever Get Better? Is It Worth the Wait?

Is There Any Difference between Male and Female Narcissists?

 A Primer on Narcissism

Healthy Place Narcissistic PD Community

Personality Disorders

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Narcissism, Culture, and Society

Narcissistic Leaders

Collective Narcissism

The Psychology of Torture

Narcissism in the Boardroom

Serial Killers as a Cultural Construct

Personality Disorders - Use and Abuse of Differential Diagnoses

Narcissistic Object Relations - The Psychology of Mass and Serial Killers

Narcissism, Ethnic or Religious Affiliation, Terrorism - Is There Any Connection?

Bibliography - Narcissism, Pathological Narcissism, The Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)

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Poetry of Healing and Abuse: My Poems

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